I’ve loved Lena since first watching her HBO show, Girls, in 2012. I was living abroad in South Korea at the time and had to stream it illegally to get access to the first season’s first episode. The reason I went to that effort was because the Internet was exploding about this episode, this TV show, and the creator of the series, Lena Dunham.
When I first saw her, in that scene in the restaurant with her parents when she gets cut off, I was shocked. Wait! That’s the girl everyone is writing about?! But her hair is brown! And she’s normal-person sized!
Seeing her on-screen was a revelation to me. I’d never seen someone like you and me as the star of a show before. I loved that season of Girls and I love the show now still. Might be why reacting to Episode 1 of Girls Season 4 was the first video I could muster up the courage to be on-camera for last year when I started my YT channel.
I’ll probably write a more complete post about Lena and Girls and what the two mean to twenty-something females at another point, but right now my main point is the essay, “I Love You, Natalie.”
You should read it!
The theme of this week’s Lenny Letter was female love/friendship, in honor of Valentine’s Day, and the love-hate relationship exhibited in this essay is something to behold.
For example, the maid of honor says this in the beginning about the bride: “Natalie and I have been best friends for almost 13 years, since I spotted her across the cafeteria, and I was like, “Wow, that girl would be absolutely gorgeous if she ordered some Proactiv and really followed the regimen.” But that’s so Natalie, she doesn’t care what anyone thinks.“
Ouch! That one burns.
The speech is full of passive aggressive digs at the bride, but also manages to give us enough background that we understand where Bethany-Lynn is coming from and know that Natalie isn’t innocent in this friendship. There are so many cringeworthy moments in this speech, but most of them also surprised me into laughter. Their relationship is taken to the extreme – I hope no one’s friendship is truly like that – but it still feels so real somehow.
Let me know what you think in the comments once you’ve read it! (Also, has anyone actually experienced a Natalie-Bethany relationship? Those aren’t real, right…?)